I have a quote to share with you all from a book that has been sitting in my "to read" pile for at least six months. (don't ask me how many books are in this pile, because we all know I am not good at math!!!!) The book is Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge, and perhaps some of you have already read it.....
"Most of our addictions as women flare up when we feel that we are not loved or sought after. At some core place, maybe deep within, perhaps hidden or buried in her heart, every woman wants to be seen, wanted, and pursued. We want to be romanced."
What are your addictions? Bitterness, resentment, anger, jealousy, control, money, food?
What do you do when you feel unloved or unlovable?
What if no man is/has pursued you, or seems to be interested much less wants you?
What if your husband has not had a romantic bone in his body since the day he proposed to you?
Do you allow God to be your source for all these things?
I can tell you personally, as a single woman, this is my greatest struggle. Allowing God to romance me. Some days, and some nights are just down right lonely. If I don't address those feelings and emotions Satan gains an inch towards a greater stronghold in whatever area of addiction I happen to be struggling in.
Your Prince longs to romance you, let Him. Cry out to Him. Wait for Him, and savor every moment. He loves you with an everlasting love.
Saturday, October 29, 2005
Captivating...
Posted by Ashlee Liddell at 2:29 PM
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I read this book a few weeks ago. I think all guys should read this (just as women should all read Wild at Heart). It really helped me to understand some of the feelings women have.
In the Book The 5 Love Languages (by Gary Chapman) it talkes about your "Love Tank" (stupid name I know). When you are in the beginning of a relationship, the tank is usually full. As time goes on, the tank begins to deplete. Unless this tank is filled periodically, it will hit empty. This is when you start feeling doubts about if anyone loves you (I've been there for sure).
That's where the love languages come in. Spoken to in your own personal love language is what fills your tank and makes you feel loved/secure...you get the point.
Let me see if I can remember them all....
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation (that's me)
Tmproff,
Thanks for the insight. I have read Chapman's book and think the insight he offers is extremely valuable to all relationships. Perhaps our different love languages add confusion to the dating scene? Just a thought.
Thanks for visiting!
I know that this book isn't the end all of relationship communication. It's a great start tho. When I look at someone I care about, I think of those 5 areas and see which one they react to the best. Then I try to keep doing those things so they feel special.
I think that's exactly what I want. To feel special. Someone that goes out of their way to spend time with me.
On the other hand, I dream of the woman that will let me make them feel special. The willingness is there, I just need the green light :)
Oh, bringing the infamous green light conversation to my blog, huh???? :) Your heart comes through so clearly in your expression of your thoughts through words. It is quite amazing to me...
So, do you think it is common for someone to dominately express love in a different form than the one they best receive it in? Just curious for your thoughts on that...
I've spoken to quite a few people about the love languages...tried to help them discover their primary one, and the one they are most comfortable using themselves. In the most part, they are usually quite different.
For example...most guys right off the bat say "Physical Touch".....most of the time after discussion, they realize it's something totally different. More often than not, women are more "physical touch" than guys. By touching a woman (most of the time in a non sexual way), you can strongly communicate that you love them.
Guys love the physical touch, but it isn't something that makes them feel loved. We dont think "Wow, my girlfriend hasn't kissed me today...she must be getting bored with me" More realistically it's "Why does she keep blowing me off when I ask her to go out (quality time)"
After reading what I just wrote, I realize that I can't lump all guys into that stereotype, but I think it's the more common attitude.
Well, one last thought....
My primary love language is definatly Words of Affirmation,and possibly to a lesser degree is Quality Time.
The love language that I'm most comfortable using is definatly Acts of Service and Receiving (giving) Gifts.
Interesting enough I took that quiz someone posted on your blog, and decidedly ended up with Acts of Service as my love language. Which goes to prove either I am not as self-aware as I thought or those quizzes are worthless. I would say at best that would be my secondary love language or perhaps one of the ways in which I most commonly show love to others.
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