So, I am sure you have all been in situations where you were asked not to tell anyone about the subject matter just discussed.
It isn't really about "secrets" it is just information someone wants to ensure they are the only one spreading.
Maybe someone is pregnant, and wishes to be the one to share the news.
Maybe someone is looking for a new job and doesn't want to chance other co-workers sharing the info with those higher up.
Maybe someone is planning a surprise.....
But whatever it is, do you believe there is really a benefit to withholding information? Keeping secrets? or asking others to keep your information quiet?
And for heaven's sake, if you are going to ask someone to keep something quiet, don't ask a single person. At least married people can discuss it with their spouses....us single folk have nothing to do but analyze it to death, alone, in our crazy heads.
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Shhhhhh.....
Posted by Ashlee Liddell at 1:21 PM
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Yes, I believe that there are things that are to be kept in confidence and are not to be shared. It doesn't mean we are "holding back" or "not being real".
Even the scriptures say (of God) "this have I shared with you in confidence". We are also told not to "cast our pearls before swine". Those are two very different types of things to not be shared - one is a confidence between two (God and "you"), and the other is not to be shared where it would be trampled on and made of no worth.
When personal information has been shared, it is essential to keep it confidential in order to have a relationship of mutual trust and growth. There are acquaintances, there are those in our lives for a reason, those for a season and those for a lifetime. In the lifetime relationships, there is a real opportunity for transparency and openness, but even there, it doesn't necessarily mean EVERYTHING should be shared or divulged.
Bottom line is 1) Just because we know or think something doesn't mean we should say it, and 2) Nobody really needs to know the complete bioligical breakdown of another person's feces. LOL
Jeff
See, I think you should always pass along everything that people tell you....so what do you know?? :)
J/j....I've tried to comment several times, but I couldn't get my thoughts together. I meant to say that there are good reasons for keeping secrets, and sometimes its necessary. And as goteeman pointed out, you have to withhold some information b/c we take in information 24/7, but we don't want to, or think it's wise not to, verbalize most of it.
Also, if/when I ask someone to keep a secret, I still assume that it will get out eventually. I have to accept that if I am going to tell anyone. And I try not to ask people to keep a secret very often, because it does cause some anxiety (more or less depends on the secret.) And last thought--- I often catch myself wanting to vent to someone in confidence in order to get something off of my mind and never confront the origin of the problem (usually a person I should talk to directly). I try not to do that.....There's a theme going on in my life right now (a divinely-orchestrated lesson plan if you will) about being honest and direct with people when I'd prefer not to be.
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